Cultural Regression (A Pantoum Prose Poem)

 

Once upon a time there was elaborate plumbing, then people started shitting in
the woods again. Once we worshipped goddesses who bore children—now we
want mothers back to work in twelve weeks.

People stopped shitting in the woods and instead fouled the rivers and ponds,
where mothers of twelve worked, scrubbing laundry. Time after time, utopia
makes a u-turn.

Along the fouled overfished oceans, hermit crabs scramble in tin cans. No shells
left for them. Time after time, progress makes a u-turn, from World War II “bomb
girls” to Bangladesh sweatshops.

Gloria Steinem wore bunny ears instead of a turtleneck to infiltrate the Playboy
Club—no glamour behind the false eyelashes of that harassment sweatshop.
But forty years later The Girls Next Door is a hit on E!

Everyone knows Hefner tested his bunnies for VD and Martin Luther King had his
dream. So why is The Girls Next Door a hit? Why is Porsha Williams on The Real
Housewives of Atlanta?

Martin Luther King has his dream, then is shot, Hosea Williams by his side.
Now Hosea’s granddaughter is a “real housewife” after working as a video vixen.

Hosea Williams was tear-gassed on his march to Selma and, fifty years later,
Michael Brown is shot in Ferguson. Because so many women aspire to be video
vixens, Pink records her hit “Stupid Girls.”

Before Michael Brown is shot in Ferguson, Trayvon Martin and Emmet Till made
the same sad history. Pink sings her hit “Stupid Girls.” 50 Cent sings, “Have a
baby by me, baby! Be a millionaire.”

Trayvon Martin and Emmet Till made the same sad history, their mothers’ grief
redirecting the rest of their lives, far from “Have a baby by me, baby! Be a
millionaire.” Or Paul Anka’s “What a lovely way of saying how much you love
me.”

Before babies directed the rest of their mothers’ lives, we worshipped goddesses
who bore children. Each pregnancy was magic, a lovely way, until we understood
the role of sperm, a man’s elaborate plumbing.

Political Satire

 

My husband thinks I’m a dirty old woman!

Sure, I’m sympathetic. I’ve sat through Masculinism 101. Intellectually I
get why he feels threatened. How could I not? Masculinism is all he and
the other husbands talk about.
And, OK, fair enough. Maybe it’s not enlightened to see men primarily as
“providers.”

But you can’t stop a woman’s biology. She wants what she
wants, and there’s nothing you (or she!) can do to change that.
Sure, I feel bad—while looking for Junior’s pacifier in my purse, my
husband found the matchbook for Provide: The Gentelwomen’s Fantasy
Club. The hunky guy on the cover makes him flinch. I tried to snatch it out
of his hand before he read message inside: If you desire strapping world-
class men and lots of them, then Provide is for you We feature hundreds
of the nation’s most stable entertainers! They are ready to fulfill your
every fantasy!

My husband wants to have “the talk.” (Yawn!) I admit to him—I’m a
regular. The men on stage swing briefcases full of money—McMansions
with his-and- her Jaguars parked in the driveway projected on the screen
behind them.

My husband starts to tear up. I hate when he does this. He wants to know
why his love isn’t enough.

The entertainers are paid to say they are hot only for me, the “wife,” i.e.
the one out with her friends for the night. In the VIP lounge, I buy a
“romance dance.” My stud brings me flowers, rubs my back, tells me I’m
as beautiful as the day I first caught his glance.

My husband blows his nose. He wants to know how on earth he can
compete with that.

I don’t tell him that JoAnn is the real perv—she orders one-on- one
cuddling, foot massages, and “active listening.”

The man Sarah hires reads her a poem he wrote himself and assures her
everything’s all right—with their relationship, with the natural
environment, with the funds for the kids’ college tuition. Where do she
want to go on vacation this summer? Hawaii? Block Island? Sarah
giggles. He notices she’s changed her hair—he says he loves it.

My husband is in a snit. He turns on the game, the thunderous volume
pulsating through the house. I’m a good wife so I reassure him—though,
between you and me, he’s becoming a bit of a drag. Calm down, I say,
Look, you provide too. This need I have has nothing to do with you. Think
of it this way—you’re lucky. Your wife is a bona fide hot-blooded
American woman.

 

Comedy of Manners

 

In The Importance of Being Weiner, a white middle-aged Oscar texts pictures of
hotdogs to young women he meets online. Most of the women ignore him, but
some find it funny and text back pictures of melons or figs. At that point, Oscar
texts a picture of a bun.

In person, he is a bit shy, so when he sets up a meeting with a woman, he
usually suggests a picnic to which he brings jerk pork, Fluffernutters, and a
couple of Ding Dongs for dessert. This menu ensures double entendres.

If all goes well, and there is a second date, Oscar usually tells his anecdote
about Alexander Graham Bell who likened his own penis to “a pink toadstool.” If
If the woman laughs and shares a quote of her own—let’s say, Dolly Parton’s “I
have small feet because nothing grows in the shade”—Oscar then tells of his out-
of-control brother Weiner.

The woman is usually horrified, of course. A married man sexting naked pictures
of himself wrapped in a towel? Or his actual member? Plus he’s a politician?

“Gross,” one woman says after the other.

“I know,” Oscar says, “but he is my brother.”

Once Oscar and a woman get intimate—which, for him, means having actual
sex—he grows bored, ready to move onto the next.

“I’ll be gone a few days,” Oscar says, which signals the end of the relationship.
“Weiner’s gotten himself into trouble again. And it’s always up to me to bail him
out.”

 

Smudge

 

Once I ran into a glass door, a slider as my aunt called it, which led to a cement
deck and a built-in pool. She was such a meticulous housekeeper—more than
once I had taken a tumble on her waxed hardwood hallway floor. She must have
washed the windows that morning. My nose bled, thicker than the blood from
other cuts, and the drops were warm as they hit my bare foot. The thud of my
body alerted my mother and my aunt, who were outside, a pink umbrella in my
mother’s drink, an aqua bathing cap with a strap under my aunt’s chin. Somehow
the door was locked from the inside. My aunt gave me directions as I fumbled.
The men were already in the pool. I saw my sister rise atop my father’s
shoulders.

My mother apologized as my aunt filled a plaid ice bag. The metal trays creaked
and crackled. My mother sopped up the floor with a wet paper towel. She
Windexed away the smudge I had made on the glass. I lay on a lounge chair, my
shame behind plastic sunglasses, the ice bag cold on my nose while the rest of
me burned.

 

The Argument

 

Your friend once told you that women are more jealous than men because it is in
your DNA. That a cavewoman was in danger of being eaten by an animal if her
caveman didn’t watch over her.

His roving eye could cost her life.

Tonight he made an ass of himself, delighted by the hostess and her cleavage.
When you get home, you loosen your husband’s long blue tie and he unclasps
your Wilma Flintstone necklace.

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Denise Duhamel’s most recent book of poetry Scald is forthcoming from
University of Pittsburgh Press, 2017.  Blowout (Pittsburgh, 2013) was a
finalist for the National Book Critics Circle Award. Her other titles include
Ka-Ching! (Pittsburgh, 2009); Two and Two (Pittsburgh, 2005); Queen for
a Day: Selected and New Poems (Pittsburgh, 2001); The Star-Spangled
Banner (Southern Illinois University Press, 1999); and Kinky (Orhisis,
1997) .  She and Maureen Seaton co-authored CAPRICE: Collaborations:
Collected, Uncollected, and New (Sibling Rivalry Press, 2015). Duhamel
is a recipient of fellowships from the Guggenhiem Foundation and the
National Endowment for the Arts.  She is a professor at Florida
International University in Miami.